Todays blog is about jealousy. Are you a jealous person? Or are you the type who is very overprotective of their partners so much so that you get jealous when they hang out with others of the opposite sex? Well this blog is for you.
In my years of dealing with relationship issues I have noticed that one of the main reasons people fall apart is due to the cause called jealousy. Don’t believe me? Well let me explain. The reason Jealousy is such a bad thing is because of two things. One is that jealousy causes one to be insecure in oneself. What I mean is say if you have a husband, we will call him paul, and a wife named alexis. Now say if Paul gets jealous when Alexis goes out and hangs out with her friends. She is real god friends with a couple of her guy friends. If Paul gets jealous of this he gets angry at her for no reason and this ends up ruining a day for the two of them. Another thing this shows is that for whatever reason Paul is insecure about his abilities to keep Alexis happy and so she is finding hapiness elsewhere. Now I am not saying that this fact is true. In actuallity Alexis may well just be hanging out with her friends and just having a good time but in the mind of Paul, Alexis is hanging out with the other guys cuz to him he isn’t enough for her, which in my opinion is a load of crap. Somebody needs to beat the shit out of you if you are a Paul.
Now other than cause insecurity, jealousy also gives way to mistrust. Now everyone knows that all relationships are based on a trust. If you violate that trust then you are basically causing the relationship to fall. If you stop being so fucking jealous you will see that your partner is more devoted to you than you may be willing to admit. Maybe a bit more so than you. If you keep getting jealous whenever he/she leaves the home your house life and love life will become non existing. Cuz honestly how do you expect someone to love you and care for you completely when you have such animosity inside you for them and such anger and distrust.
Now if you are the type who would like to keep your partners happy and in love with you for the rest of your lives here are some tips
Firstly, treat everyday as a fucking gift from God that you have with your partner. Life is too unpredictable and you never know when something may happen. If you truly love them then keep them happy. Keep them smiling. There is to much stress and unhappiness around. I bet if you can make your partner smile and laugh most of the time you will be happy.
Secondly, always find an excuse to make your partner feel special. Do you remember the times when all you could think about was “oh I wish she were mine.”? What did you do to accomplish this? You kept her smiling and happy and made her like you. Then why change after you get the beautiful angel you call your life partner? My advice would be that everyday make sure you give her an excuse to love you back. Treat her like you would when you were trying to get him/her. Getting that special someone is a piece of cake compared to keeping that special someone. His/her love is a gift. Make sure you know that and they know that as well.
And lastly make sure your happiness lives and grows in theirs. Best way to keep your partner happy is to take an ordinary day and make him/her feel like they are the world to you. Obviously you will treat them good for the anniversary or birthdays, etc. But if you cal randomly out of the blue make him/her feel like you truly love them that will keep you two together. Why you ask? Because when someone asks you why you love them and they say that there is just something about them that makes me fall for them harder each day, that means you have achieved what most dream of achieving. If you do all of this you have no reason to be jealous.
So what do you say internutterz? Agree? Disagree? Comments?