One of the biggest problems relationships face is change. We hear this constantly that you are not the same person I fell in love with. Is this a problem that we can fix? Lets break it down and see if we can find a solution so that more happy relationships may last longer.
Many things change in a relationship. Everything from the person to the relationship itself. All things start with the spark of an interest. That interest develops into a like or dislike and then further into love or hate. But alot of the time people complain that they cant see a future with the other person because they changed. First of all everyone changes. As times go on and the nature of the relationship changes so do people. But is change bad or good? Change can be bad or good depending on how you take it and what you do with it. Change is inevitable and so one must not focus on the change itself but the cause and root of this. This all starts with the intention one had when committing to the relationship. What was your reason so to speak of getting into a relationship with the other. Many categories and factors play a role in this like looks, fashion, money, knowledge, etc.
One of the most important things one must keep in mind is the why we got in the relationship. You have to have a reason to ground you to it because if in your mind you are just looking for a temporary thing than you are already planning your break up. But if your true intention is that this relationship be the last thing you ever have then you make it last forever. In other words regardless of what happens we should keep in our minds that we are not going to give up on one another no matter the cost.
This mind set cuts down on a lot of the “change” issues that arise. But still there are a few that may cause a tension. Before you get into a committed relationship bare in mind what you would consider an absolute no. Bare in mind that not everything about you is attractive and not everything about you is loveable no matter how perfect you are for one another. This is where the compromises come in play. As long as you keep focusing on the positives everything will play out fine.
People will change. One thing to keep in mind is that no matter what happens always be true to yourself. Be true and honest. There is a difference between the truth and being honest. People may change the way they look, they may change their fashion style and the car they drive but never change what you stand for. You may change the way you see each other or the way you think but never change who you are as a person and what you represent. If this changes then you are looking at bad change where as everything else may be considered good because that is adapting to the change in the relationship.
Never be afraid to talk to one another. Once you are in a committed relationship you must work as one and not 2 separate entities. Communicate everything regardless of how irrelevant it may seem. Know that you both have each others back and that even if you fall they will be there to catch you. Know the limits of each other and respect them. Everyone changes but if you change together as one you will last forever.