One of the biggest problems relationships face is change. We hear this constantly that you are not the same person I fell in love with. Is this a problem that we can fix? Lets break it down and see if we can find a solution so that more happy relationships may last longer.
Many things change in a relationship. Everything from the person to the relationship itself. All things start with the spark of an interest. That interest develops into a like or dislike and then further into love or hate. But alot of the time people complain that they cant see a future with the other person because they changed. First of all everyone changes. As times go on and the nature of the relationship changes so do people. But is change bad or good? Change can be bad or good depending on how you take it and what you do with it. Change is inevitable and so one must not focus on the change itself but the cause and root of this. This all starts with the intention one had when committing to the relationship. What was your reason so to speak of getting into a relationship with the other. Many categories and factors play a role in this like looks, fashion, money, knowledge, etc.
One of the most important things one must keep in mind is the why we got in the relationship. You have to have a reason to ground you to it because if in your mind you are just looking for a temporary thing than you are already planning your break up. But if your true intention is that this relationship be the last thing you ever have then you make it last forever. In other words regardless of what happens we should keep in our minds that we are not going to give up on one another no matter the cost.
This mind set cuts down on a lot of the “change” issues that arise. But still there are a few that may cause a tension. Before you get into a committed relationship bare in mind what you would consider an absolute no. Bare in mind that not everything about you is attractive and not everything about you is loveable no matter how perfect you are for one another. This is where the compromises come in play. As long as you keep focusing on the positives everything will play out fine.
People will change. One thing to keep in mind is that no matter what happens always be true to yourself. Be true and honest. There is a difference between the truth and being honest. People may change the way they look, they may change their fashion style and the car they drive but never change what you stand for. You may change the way you see each other or the way you think but never change who you are as a person and what you represent. If this changes then you are looking at bad change where as everything else may be considered good because that is adapting to the change in the relationship.
Never be afraid to talk to one another. Once you are in a committed relationship you must work as one and not 2 separate entities. Communicate everything regardless of how irrelevant it may seem. Know that you both have each others back and that even if you fall they will be there to catch you. Know the limits of each other and respect them. Everyone changes but if you change together as one you will last forever.
I’m back, hopefully this time permanantly. So I’ve been collecting subject materials for a couple weeks and now I have finally concluded on blogging mostly on relationships.
So this topic of relationships is very vast and so does require both experience and wisdom to understand and work with. Now under no circumstance should you assume that my methods, if you want to call it that, work every single time. My blogs are simply conclusions I have come to with my experiences in relationships. If you readers would like me to continue with the topic I ask that you leave me feedback so that I can better my content. Obviously I don’t know everything. I’m a guy. What do us guys know?
let’s start at the very beginning. In order to have a relationship the first and foremost detail is yourself. There are many problems and situations that can be avoided, prevented and/or solved if you can get a PhD in knowing yourself. What do I mean by this? Let’s start with who are you? What are you about? What are your strengths and weaknesses as a person? What ticks you off? What makes you happy? Many a people say that in order to have a successful relationship you need to be able to click with the other person or that the two of you need to have things in common. Well when you like someone to the point where you want to be with them then the above statement is very ridiculous and pointless.
You have to figure yourself out before you devote your time in figuring out other people. Only by knowing yourself will you be able to find a suitable person that is compatible to you. Big tits and nice ass doesn’t make a relationship last nor does tall, dark and handsome. Now you may sit there and think well duh I know myself. Of course I know what I am looking for in my significant other. But do you really? What most people confuse themselves with is what they want in someone and what they need in someone. For example you may be the type who enjoys traveling and site seeing. For such a person you NEED an adventurous personality to click with. But instead what people WANT is someone who likes the same movies or something dumb like that. What I’m trying to say is that people go about asking for or rather they look for the wrong things in a mate BECAUSE THEY DON’T KNOW THEMSELVES.
As mentioned before you NEED TO KNOW what ticks you off as well. If you are someone who can’t stand a messy house/room don’t try to get with someone who is a slob but is so god damn good looking you want to dry hump them. If you are looking for a casual fling or something to keep you occupied then you aren’t really serious about getting with someone. IF you are looking for a long term and a permanant relationship then KNOW YOURSELF.
Along with knowing what ticks you off see where you lose your patience with people. If you are constantly getting into arguments with him/her because you keep getting fed up with some of their actions then that relationship won’t last. Are you someone who gets pissed very easily? Or can you swallow your anger and let it go sometime? Do you have the patince to deal with him/her even though they do certain things that tick you off?
The reason I say KNOW YOURSELF is because once you master who you are you can let the other know. In a relationship honesty is everything. A lot of times people get with each other and commit to one another only to find out later that he/she do things that are ruining the relationship. If you know yourself such excuses and complaints will not be from you or because of you.
What are your thoughts? Agree? Disagree? Have similar or contradictory experiences? Share them with a comment below. Id love to hear your thoughts.
That’s all for today! See you all next week 🙂