A new chapter in my life has started and that is one of being a married man. I am married to an amazing individual who is nothing short of perfection. Everything and anything that I could hope for in my wife she has in her. But what makes her so perfect? Tonight’s topic will be of the perfect partner. Those of you who are close to me will know of my mindset when it comes to relationships of any sort and now that I am married I reaffirm that belief. Before you get into any sort of relationship you must make yourself ready and worthy of that relationship. Are you friend material? Are you boyfriend/girlfriend material? Are you worth marrying? These are all questions that you must ask your own self and answer for your own self. I believe that everyone has about 5 things that they will never compromise on. Everyone also at the same time is looking for about 5 characteristics in whoever they want a relationship with. One must figure out the answers to these questions before engaging in any kind of relationship. Know yourself before you take on the adventure of knowing someone else. If you dont know who you are and what you are about how can you expect someone else to figure you out? If you dont know yourself how can you expect others to know how to treat you right? Now once you figure these things out for yourself you have to let your partner know what those things are. Once your partner knows these things about you and agrees to them then and only then have you created the best foundation and base to start building a relationship on. Everyone has been brought up differently. Everyone has had different experiences that has shaped who they are and the way they process things. It is essential that these things be known upfront to both you and your partner because only then can everyone know what is and isnt acceptable in the relationship going forward. Every relationship failing is your fault if you dont follow these things. At the end of the day the journey is how great of friends can you become with someone else. Do you have what it takes to be someone’s everything?
Im sitting here on my computer with a lot on my mind and yet nothing at all. I dont know how to fel or comprehend things happening in my life and at the same time feeling hopeless that I dont have control over my own happiness. My future is clear and yet so foggy. In short im just a big ball of lost and confused. Good will hunting is playing on netflix in the background and the biggest point Im taking from it is that How do others know what is better for you vs what you want to do. Why doe it matter what I am doing with my life or how I utilize it. According to good will hunting watching such natural talent go to waste is almost degrading. Or maybe degrading is not the word. But what I see is that why doesnt anyone ever try to see things from the other persons perspective. Being unique is almost hell for geniuses.
The biggest question ive been trying to figure out for the past couple weeks is what is happiness. The sad part is no one can answer this for you. This is something you have to figure out for yourself. Happiness is different from person to person.
Sorry this post is just a bunch of ramblings.
Hope everyone has a good night.
Who are you? After the question of what is the purpose of life many struggle with the ever prevalent question of “who am I?”. Defining things is very easy but for sone reason when asked as to who you are most people are dumbstruck. How do you define who you are? Is it defined by your profession? Is it defined by your actions? Or perhaps your natural urges and tendencies? There may very well not be a right or wrong answer but let’s take a stab at it.
When asked to define a word we automatically give it’s meaning or interpretation. Most of the time context clues around the word are used to derive the definition. Why not use the same approach when defining ourselves? In order to give your existance a meaning why not look at yourself in the manner one does when defining a word. There is the textbook option of using a dictionary with words but most of the time the dictionary only leads us to more confusion unless provided in a sentence. So by providing context and use for the quarry we seek the true definition alludes the understanding.
So who are you? Obviously you are more than a word and therefore it will take more than just a word or a sentence or two to answer that question.
One of the biggest problems relationships face is change. We hear this constantly that you are not the same person I fell in love with. Is this a problem that we can fix? Lets break it down and see if we can find a solution so that more happy relationships may last longer.
Many things change in a relationship. Everything from the person to the relationship itself. All things start with the spark of an interest. That interest develops into a like or dislike and then further into love or hate. But alot of the time people complain that they cant see a future with the other person because they changed. First of all everyone changes. As times go on and the nature of the relationship changes so do people. But is change bad or good? Change can be bad or good depending on how you take it and what you do with it. Change is inevitable and so one must not focus on the change itself but the cause and root of this. This all starts with the intention one had when committing to the relationship. What was your reason so to speak of getting into a relationship with the other. Many categories and factors play a role in this like looks, fashion, money, knowledge, etc.
One of the most important things one must keep in mind is the why we got in the relationship. You have to have a reason to ground you to it because if in your mind you are just looking for a temporary thing than you are already planning your break up. But if your true intention is that this relationship be the last thing you ever have then you make it last forever. In other words regardless of what happens we should keep in our minds that we are not going to give up on one another no matter the cost.
This mind set cuts down on a lot of the “change” issues that arise. But still there are a few that may cause a tension. Before you get into a committed relationship bare in mind what you would consider an absolute no. Bare in mind that not everything about you is attractive and not everything about you is loveable no matter how perfect you are for one another. This is where the compromises come in play. As long as you keep focusing on the positives everything will play out fine.
People will change. One thing to keep in mind is that no matter what happens always be true to yourself. Be true and honest. There is a difference between the truth and being honest. People may change the way they look, they may change their fashion style and the car they drive but never change what you stand for. You may change the way you see each other or the way you think but never change who you are as a person and what you represent. If this changes then you are looking at bad change where as everything else may be considered good because that is adapting to the change in the relationship.
Never be afraid to talk to one another. Once you are in a committed relationship you must work as one and not 2 separate entities. Communicate everything regardless of how irrelevant it may seem. Know that you both have each others back and that even if you fall they will be there to catch you. Know the limits of each other and respect them. Everyone changes but if you change together as one you will last forever.
SO for the past couple of days I have been bored trying to pick up a new show to watch. I rarely ever get into reality tv because honestly there is nothing we can take from these shows. There is no real emotion. There is no real story. There is no real moral or purpose of them. But this is not the case with what I picked up recently. The show is called Undercover Bosses and it is available on Netflix.
I just got done watching an episode and it got me thinking about a few things. Well to be honest I had been thinking about this since last tuesday and the issue at hand for me is Corporations and their employees. It really upsets me to see some of the things these companies do when it comes to treatment of their employees.
Before I write on I would like to say that I have been a leader of many groups and my work ethics when it comes to my team is something I am proud of. Also the old saying that the customer is always right is utter bullshit.
When you are the leader or head of your team or group it isn’t just your job but your responsibility to lookout for your team. Any boss that sides with the customer over their own employee at the expense of the reputation and dignity of their employee deserves to be fired. If you have an employee that gives it their all to lookout for the best interest of the company he or she works for and due to one reason or another makes a mistake or two that costs the company a few customers does not deserve to be treated like shit. The customer isnt always right. As the boss or leader it is your job to stick up for your followers and workers. If for whatever reason an issue escalates then you as the head should put your own reputation and image on the line rather than use the employees as a cushion for the punches thrown by the customer. Once the whole situation resolves then you may take the employee aside and talk with them about their performance but never should they be called out or ridiculed in front of customers ever.
What are your thoughts? Are you a business owner or manager? have you had issues with this? How have you resolved them?
The simple act of being a friend to someone is enough to change someone’s brain chemistry to be better. Friends are hard to come by. True friends. People worthy of the entitlement of friend. Not your average joe who you met along the way but a person who knows you for who you are and can make decisions for you not the ones you would make but judgement calls so that you would be better as a person and human being. That is a friend. One that isn’t afraid to say no nor is he afraid to say yes when the moment arises. A true friend is one that no matter what you say or do he or she will always be there for you. No amount of hurt or pain can cause them to shun you away. It is only by disregarding them, by abusing them, by using them, by not being thankful of them will you ever lose a friend. So remember the next time you are mean or abusive or neglectful in your duties towards a person. By doing so you may have lost your chance of making a friend.